Kawin tangkap is a long-established, controversial practice that still occurs on the small island of Sumba in Indonesia. Kawin tangkap, or bride kidnapping, is carried out when members of the man’s family kidnap women who they have selected as their wives. The practice has long been argued against by women’s rights activists. After all, if the women leave the forced marriage they are ridiculed by their villages and told that they will never have a husband or children. On the other hand, if the women stay, they have no decision in the matter and remain in the marriage for the remainder of their lives. The issue came to light recently when a video of a kidnapping circulated online, sparking outrage and petitions for the abolishment of the practice.
Part of the Sumbese Culture?
Regional leaders of Sumba have come forward, signing a declaration and stating that the well-known practice is not a part of their culture and traditions. Frans Wora Hebi, a Sumbese historian and elder, speculates that the shift from marriages to forcibly taking women has been “used by people wanting to force women to marry them without consequences.” The Indonesian government has responded by passing a law banning the practice, but the details and consequences have not yet been released.
Women Who Have Shared their Stories
Some women have spoken about their experiences, saying that it “felt like I was dying” as they were led away “kicking and screaming.” Two women who came forward shared their stories, with one thinking she was walking into a work meeting and another nursing her 11-month-old son outside of her home. Both were able to walk away from the situation physically unscathed but have to carry the scars from the experience for the rest of their lives. Both have “forgiven” the perpetrators in order to preserve family relationships for the future.
How Has It Continued?
In the last four years, seven cases have been documented, but it’s been speculated that many more have happened. While a “memorandum of understanding between the provincial East Nusa Tenggara government and the regional government of Sumba showing their commitment to ending the practice” has been signed, a local parliamentarian commented that they were “not convinced it can be entirely abolished.” The statement was made following the observations that the practice is seen mainly in isolated villages, the attacks are unexpected and many women do not come forward to file criminal cases. Instead, they stay with their new groom and family, which leaves police powerless to do anything about the issue. Part of the problem comes from the fact that there were formerly only social reprimands against the practice, with no long-term consequences. However, with the recent bill passed, the practice is now outlawed - a win for women who have been fighting against bride kidnapping for years.
Elizabeth Misnick
is a Professional Writing and Rhetoric major at Baylor University. She grew up in a military family and lived in Europe for almost half her life, traveling and living in different countries. She hopes to continue writing professionally throughout her career and publish her writing in the future.